There's a pile of laundry on the stairs, a cold coffee on the counter, and someone yelling mooooooom for the fifth time in three minutes. You love your kids, obviously. But sometimes the mental noise feels louder than a toddler crying and the dog barking at the same time.
That's where cannabis comes in (oooh yeeaaa). Not as an escape, but as a way to breathe. To soften the edges. To come back to yourself for a second before stepping back into the chaos. I'd like to emphasize that this is NOT about checking out. It's about showing up with a bit more calm, and a lot more patience.
Breaking the Stereotype
This article will take a look at the rise of the moms who use cannabis ( affectionately given the moniker "cannamoms") and aims to destigmatize it's use. Let's clear something up; using cannabis as a mom doesn’t mean that you’re sitting on the couch all day with an open bag of family sized Cheetos and no idea what time it is. You’re not skipping school pick-up to stare into space all day. And you are ASBOLUTELY NOT zoning out and using this a means of ignoring your children. You’re probably juggling meal planning, homework help, and trying to remember whether it's band practice or tutoring after school today. This isn’t the stoner image people still cling to; this is modern motherhood, with a bit of help.
Responsible cannabis use as a mom looks a lot like responsibly using anything else. Speaking from personal experience, it can look like a half a gummy before folding the me-height pile laundry I've been putting off. A few drops of cannabis oil before the 30-minute bedtime routine always turns into an hour. It's not about checking out. It's about softening the stress so you can show up as the version of you that doesn’t get annoyed over normal sibling conflict playing out.
You’re still doing all the things. You’re just doing them with a sense of calm. Less anxiety and more being able to focus on the task at hand - whatever it may be.
Mental Load, Anxiety, and Overwhelm
There's the shopping list, the birthday party RSVP you forgot to send, and the wet clothes in the washing machine again. You haven't had a quiet moment in days, but your brain still won't shut up. That's the mental overload, the endless tabs open in your head that never quite close.
Add in the daily noises that bring in good ole overstimulation. Phones pinging, kids yelling, toys everywhere but where they're supposed to be, and its a short road to snapping at someone who just asked for a snack.....again (I know she's having a growth spurt, but damn).
Cannabis won’t do the dishes for you, it won’t make your toddler love naps, but it can take the edge off. It can slow that racing feeling, quiet the noise, and help you breathe more easily, and just take a moment. It gives your brain a break, even if your day doesn’t.
Used carefully, it’s not about numbing out (and I will keep emphasizing that). It’s about turning the volume down. Enough to think clearly. Enough to reset. Enough to feel like you again. Not just the person who remembers everyone else's dentist's appointments.
Motherhood is loud. Using cannabis as a mom can help soften the volume so you don’t lose yourself in the noise. Let’s be honest: if wine moms get a whole culture, why can’t we normalize a little weed wisdom too?
Wine Culture vs. Weed Culture
"Wine o’clock" has been a running joke in mom circles for years. And honestly, no judgment, everyone's got their way of taking the edge off. But for some moms, cannabis feels like a better fit. There's no hangover, no foggy mornings, no chance of accidentally spilled pinot on the sofa - just a sense of relief that doesn’t cost tomorrow’s energy.
To be clear, it's not about being better. We here at Mommy Trauma don't mom-shame. As long as your child is healthy, happy, and safe, do your thing. It’s about feeling more present in managing the chaos, but maybe with a little more patience and a little less stress bubbling under the surface.
Some moms reach for a glass others reach for a gummy or an old fashioned joint. Both are just trying to get through the day with some grace and a few laughs. The goals are the same: to feel a bit more human by bedtime.
Better Sleep = Better Mom
Sleep used to be simple. Now its a battle between being tired and your overthinking brain. You like down, but your mind starts listing everything you forgot to do. Or worse, everything coming tomorrow.
Cannabis moms can slow that thought process down. There is so much testimony out there about responsible cannabis use helping to quiet the racing thoughts and helping you fall asleep faster and stay asleep longer. That kind of rest makes a difference. You wake up with more energy, more patience, and maybe even fewer bags under your eyes.
Sleep isn’t just a bonus. It's survival. When you’re rested, you’re calmer during meltdowns. You’re less snappy when someone spills juice on the sofa. You’re more likely to laugh at the chaos instead of crying in the bathroom. One solid night of sleep can change trajectory of the whole week! Because, when you’re well rested—and not running on fumes or regret—you start to remember “her”. The you that exists beyond the to-do lists and tantrums.
Joy, Self-Care, and Identity
Theres still a version of you who laughs at silly things, comes up with fun ideas and feels good in her own skin. She’s not gone, just a little buried under schedules, snacks and to-do lists.
Cannabis can help bring her back into the room. It creates space to unwind, spark a little creativity, and enjoy the moment. It can turn a regular evening into something lighter. A quiet giggle, a new playlist, a spark of fun that reminds you you’re more than the person who always knows where shoes are. That quiet giggle? That spark of fun? That’s where self-care begins—not in grand gestures, but in the little things that make you feel like you again.
Self-care doesn’t have to mean spa days or silent retreats. Sometimes it’s a calm half-hour after bedtime with a cup of tea and a gentle high. A moment that’s just yours.
You’re still you. Cannabis just helps clear a path to the parts of you that feel good, relaxed, and live. And that matters for you, and for everyone around you.
Using Cannabis as a Mom Safely and Responsibly
Cannabis doesn’t have to be all or nothing. A small dose at the right moment can go a long way. The goal isn’t to check out. It's to feel a little clearer, a little lighter.
That's why it helps to start slow. Know what you’re using, how much, and when. Stick with trusted sources and give yourself space to figure out what works. Think of it like brewing the right cup of coffee, not too strong, not too weak, just right for you.
This Doesn’t Make You a Bad Mom
Let’s be very clear about one thing: choosing cannabis as part of your coping toolbox doesn’t make you a bad mom. It makes you a mom who’s trying. A mom who’s navigating a thousand invisible tasks, managing a full emotional landscape, and still wants to show up with softness and strength. The world is loud with judgment already—you don’t need to add your own voice to that noise. If cannabis helps you feel more present, more patient, or more like yourself, that’s not failure. That’s care. Care for your kids and care for you. And that kind of care? That’s the definition of good mothering.
So wear it with pride—literally. Check out the Baked In More Ways Than One hoodie, tee, or tank in the shop. It’s bold, it’s comfy, and it’s made for moms who know that taking the edge off doesn’t mean losing your edge.
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